The Future of Your Marriage

Are you getting married?  Do you love your partner?  Are you ready to face the potential challenges.  I would like to offer you my thoughts for preparing.  Always have a purpose for your marriage and define that purpose with your partner.  Marriage is for better or worse.  Also characterized as thick and thin.

The first thing you want to do is decide whether your partner is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.  Do you truly love your spouse.  This means you have to sacrifice part of your life for your spouses’ life.  That’s why you have to think about all the issues, not just some of them.

Focus on the fundamentals first.  Decide what materials you need in your marriage.  What kind of home do I really need?  Do I really want children for love or for self worth?  What kind of budget are you going to have?  How much money do you need to finance that budget?  What kinds of activities do we want to do?  Always ask yourself why.  Why do we want a family?  You must set goals for your marriage.  Make sure you avoid things you don’t want or don’t need.

Establish a good communication system for yourself.  Set up a little office with a computer, pads of paper, pens and calculator.  Always keep those things in a central area of the home.  Even if its just a set of tote boxes.  This is vitally important to keep everyone in the household on the same page.  Make it a central system for yourself.  Focus on centrality and knowing where things are.  Tote boxes are very useful.  Always use labels too.

Set up a marital budget and stick to it.  This is important.  Take old debts and consolidate them if you can.  Maybe you can refinance your home.  Always decide what things you need and avoid those you don’t need.